And that’s because it shows a very mean-spirited behavior in real time, though it also shows the role of etiquette, which I define as the often culturally-determined, typically unspoken rules that governs relations between people.
In the real world, if I am going though a door, and someone is following closely behind, I tend to hold it for them. Or if I sneeze or yawn in a public space, I cover my mouth (or if my hands are occupied, at the very least bow my head).
In the latter example, both not only help prevent the spread of germs, but are also respectful of others around me.
In reference to the video, it’s worth repeating that the Tweets don’t originate with the men that are reading them, though their reactions are interesting.
Quite a few of them are so ashamed of what they’re reading that they can barely speak (one or two even seem like they’re going to break into tears), though I think that that’s less to do with the words themselves than the fact that the person those words are designed to denigrate are right in front of them.
When I’m entangled in such a situation online–while I try to give as good as I get–I also understand that that approach is often like throwing gasoline on a conflagration. Best case scenario, I might be able to shut down the aggressor; though what’s likelier is that even if I ‘win’ I’ve made a bad situation worse, and the feeling you get for it is quite unlike anyone you’re likely to experience.
In other words: heads you lose, tails you lose (like Aliens vs Predator, though for entirely different reasons).
This is where etiquette comes in. I try not to say anything on line that I wouldn’t say to someone to their face because it they were present the likelihood that we’d be fighting over something really stupid would be remarkably high (like the anticipated box office of Captain America: Civil War).
And unlike what many of our parents tell us about sticks and stones, there have been many times that I would have preferred a punch or two to the vitriol that emanates from some people’s mouths.